Constance Wu has revealed in her new book that she was sexually abused over 20 years.
In a part of Creating a scenePublished by Vanity fair, of Fresh off the boat The actress, 40, opened up about meeting an “aspiring novelist” named Ty on their second date 20 years ago.
In the book, dated October 4, Wu wrote that her first date with Ty, a New Yorker in her mid-30s who seemed to be a gentleman and with whom she shared a spark, was wonderful. On their second date, they had dinner and he invited her to his apartment to give her something he had written for her. They kissed and it escalated, but when he went to get a condom – “a clear signal for sex, which I did No wants” – she said more than once that she was “not ready to have sex” with him.
“But he just smiled, like he knew better than the words coming out of my mouth,” he wrote. “He…did anyway.”
Wu wrote that he “didn’t fight back. I just… gave up” as it happened. She told herself that, “Cool girls weren’t scared. Also … she wasn’t violent. She didn’t listen to me.” Also, “If I fought him there was a risk that he might get angry or violent. Could I really fight someone twice my age and a decade older? his Apartment?” Also, “I was already so embarrassed… I didn’t want to Create a scene.”
He recalled that he “wasn’t even upset” when she left. “I just felt … strange. Maybe because there was no physical force … I didn’t feel attacked or assaulted or forced and I certainly didn’t feel raped. He just didn’t listen to meI thought.”
Wu buried the story beneath the surface long before she became a TV star, giving her “a front-row seat to Hollywood’s covert sexism and misogyny.” From his popularity Fresh off the boat “Given me a public platform, I used it to advocate for equality, expose systemic gender bias, and call for the public recognition and end of rape culture… all while thinking that How lucky I There was never any rape.”
It changed a day on a plane from Singapore after shooting the 2018 hit Crazy rich Asians.
“I woke up from a nap when realization hit me like a flood,” she wrote. “Ty raped me. He raped me, and I didn’t do anything about it.”
She initially had a hard time describing it as “rape” (“I couldn’t even say that word”), But was able to work it out with his therapist. ” he said C The lack of rape and violence didn’t change that,” he recalled.
Wu spent a lot of time wondering why it took her 10 years to become a victim of sexual abuse. She now knows, “I did not consent to sex. It may not have been violent, but it was rape. Period.”
The excerpt ends with her writing, “Some might say I should have fought against Ty. But if I could go back in time, I wouldn’t change my reaction that night. Because when I think of that girl I was. At that time, I understand what she was going through. I Won’t force him to do anything before he’s ready.”
Wu has been making headlines for her candid revelations over the past few months. Just last week, she said she was sexually harassed in her early years Fresh off the boatwhich aired from 2015 to 2020. In the late ’90s, he appeared on the set of the hit sitcom in Orlando, Fla. Played mother Jessica Huang in a Taiwanese-American family living in
He said The New York Times one Unidentified “senior members of the production team … controlled her,” including “demanding that she run all of her business affairs ahead of her and telling her what to wear” during her first year on the show. during She also claimed that the man once placed his hand on her thigh and grazed her crotch. By season 2, she felt empowered to say no to the man. She and her alleged harasser stopped speaking altogether after she refused to attend a film festival with him.
“Fresh off the boat “It was my first TV show,” Wu told the outlet. I was thrown into this world. I don’t have parents in the industry. And because I was 30 years old, people thought I knew what I was doing. It made me mad and embarrassed.”
Wu said there was trouble behind his tweets in 2019 that he was prepared for Fresh off the boat to finish. Her tweets prompted a backlash and she apologized for being “dramatic”. However, off-line, he felt like an insult to the Asian American community for seeming ungrateful for his job, leading him to attempt suicide. She publicly shared about the suicide attempt in July this year when she returned to social media for the first time in three years.
If you or someone you know has been sexually abused, help is available. RAINN’s National Sexual Assault Hotline is here for survivors 24/7 with free, anonymous help. 800.656.HOPE (4673) and online.rainn.org.